Monday, December 29, 2014

Good and Bad

Ah Christmas time. Now it has come and gone and I am feeling a bit better and less like I'm stuck in a cloud of darkness and hazy smog.  I haven't been on Facebook or Twitter except to briefly wish everyone a Happy Christmas and haven't really had a conversation with my Quidditch team for about a week now.  I almost went back on Twitter yesterday/this morning and I did check Facebook very quickly last night because a friend had sent me a file via the chat, but I stayed invisible and didn't say or like anything.  It is surprisingly easy to keep myself away from everyone and that terrifies me a little bit.  The last thing I want to do is alienate myself, but I do want to separate myself a little bit and not be so involved with everyone.  Well, I don't really want to do that either.  It is complicated and super hard to explain.  I love them all and I want more than anything to talk to them and be involved with them all right now, but I just can't because I care too much about them and they don't care about me.  I'm getting sick of this trend where I am always there for people and go out of my way for them, but they don't do the same in return.  I'm sick of caring so much about other people who don't care about me and I can't do it anymore.  I'm never going to get over my depression and anxiety and possible bipolar disorder if I keep living like this, I need to start taking care of myself more instead of always taking care of everyone else.  It also doesn't help that I accidentally fell for my Quidditch captain (one of them) and in the process also got my heart broken by him.  And I can't tell if he is pissed at me or not so I don't know what to do.  I just want to talk to him and figure everything out, but he once told me that he is the kind of guy who just forgets stuff and moves on so I don't want to seem like I'm being overdramatic.  At the same time though, I'm getting the impression that he hasn't "just forgotten and moved on" because he is being really weird around me and I just don't know.  When it is us with other people he is fine, but online and with his best friend (the other captain) involved it seems like he is being really awkward.  I just want to apologize and I really wish that we could have talked in person instead of on Facebook about the issues I was having with the team a month ago (the thing that started all of this).  I don't know what to do anymore.  Maybe I'm just overthinking, maybe its because I have this inherent need to keep apologizing until I'm forgiven, maybe its because my brain doesn't work right so it sees things the wrong way all of the time, maybe its something else - it could be so many things and I'll never know.  Maybe what I feel really is the truth, maybe my gut is right.  I dunno.  I never do.

In a lighter aspect of things: I've lost weight.  I went shopping with my sisters today and they were commenting on how baggy the jeans I was wearing were so I got some new ones and found out that I'm down two jean sizes.  I was so happy that I don't want to eat for days now, but I'm trying to not focus on my unhealthy thoughts and only on the good things.  I'm excited that I've lost weight and I'm on track to becoming a better and more beautiful me.  I'm also going out in about half an hour with my best friend, her mom, and my mom for dinner and I'm really excited.  Like I said, I'm trying to focus on all of the good things so that the bad things don't seem so bad.  (and there is a lot of bad in my life right now) I just hope that through counseling at my school I'll be able to overcome all of this someday and be able to be really happy and normal.

Thursday, December 25, 2014

He has ruined me

He has ruined me.

there was once a time when I did not know
what the difference between being 
"in like" with someone and "in love" with someone was,
but now I do 
and I wish I didn't because being in love
hurts so much more than being in like. 
everything is so much more different now,
since the day that we first met and 
I thought him attractive -
at first - 
not knowing what I was getting myself into
as I slowly began to know him
and slowly began to learn what love means
at the same time that I began to experience 
what it is really like to feel so overwhelmed by a person
who is merely whelmed by you.
when his best friend told me that I was sure
to experience heart break someday 
I did not believe him
because I did not know that it was possible 
for a heart to fall for another without the other knowing
and that mistranslation is what ended up ruining me -
I did not know that it was going to be between us
or with him 
because I was misguided by a heart speaking the wrong language:
the language of being in like instead of the language of being in love. 
and now I know what it is like to be ruined 
by someone who does not know,
his best friend was right all along
without either of us truly knowing 
and now I deserve an "I told you so" 
because I accidentally got my heart broken
by not knowing what love truly was. 

He has ruined me.

I cannot hear his name without thinking about him,
even when it is someone else who happens to share
the same arrangement of letters 
because just the sound of that name 
makes my heart jump and my lungs pause,
I will never be able to hear that name without
thinking of him.
I cannot sleep without remembering the time
we slept curled up next to each other on a floor
because we were snowed in at someone else's house - 
my bed feels empty without him in it 
and I can't fully feel warm at night 
without him beside me.
I cannot wake up in the morning without remembering
pushing my face into his chest 
as my nose filled with the smell of his morning breath
and I still can faintly remember the sound of his beating heart
underneath his t-shirt. 
I cannot go on Facebook or Twitter without 
subliminally hoping to get a notification from him
and in the off chance that I do,
my smile doesn't fade away for hours 
because I cannot experience life without him in it
and I cannot imagine life without him in it
and I cannot stand the idea of him not being in it,
but we fought and I got angry and now I cannot talk to him 
in the way that we used to because everything is tense.
I cannot eat or sleep without my thoughts being filled with him
and I cannot help but regret messing everything up
because I cannot convince my heart to stop beating 
in the rhythm that it matched that day 
I snuggled my head into his chest when we woke up that morning
and his morning breath filled my nostrils. 

He has ruined me, 
and I now know the true meaning of being in love 
as he walks away and my heart
shatters.

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Alcoholic in Reverse

I'm like an alcoholic but my addiction is in the reverse
because instead of emptying bottles
I spill them down my pale white arms 
and the liquid isn't made by anyone but me,
instead of being clear alcohol it is thick and muddy red. 

My purple veins that twine themselves underneath 
skin stretched across bone
are the bottles for the liquid I crave 
and my addiction is to shattering those bottles
so that I can see their contents 
spill out on the floor 
as my vision fades to black. 

Black outs bring mornings filled with regrets,
not from forgotten memories -
because there is nothing that can be forgot - 
but from not shattering enough bottles
and keeping too much liquid inside me 
so that my eyelids slowly open 
instead of staying closed.  

Like an alcoholic I crave that liquid,
wanting to drown myself in that muddy red 
by releasing it from fragile bottles 
stacked on top of brittle bones. 

They say that they don't understand my addiction
because they don't know how someone can reverse alcoholism
on their own bodies - 
they don't realize how it is the same -
I want to forget everything and fade away:
my liquid of choice is merely spilt across pale white skin
instead of emptied from bottles into empty stomachs.

Distancing From Them

When everything happened a few weeks ago I distanced myself from my team for a few days because I didn't want to get angry at everyone even though I was hurt and wanted everyone to know it.  It felt like a good idea, but now things feel different and I think that I alienated myself from them.  So what is my solution?  To stop talking to them altogether.  I may wish them all a happy Christmas on Thursday, but other than that I'm not going to talk to them until I have to when I get back in January.  I'm still hurting and things are getting really bad for me mentally and I need a break.  I just want to apologize to everyone and make things like they once were, but I don't think that is going to happen so I might as well just break myself away from them and distance myself more.  I can't keep relying on these people that I would jump in front of a bullet for, but wouldn't do the same for me.  When I get back after break I'm going to spend more time alone in the library or at my dorm and less time with them because this isn't healthy, how hurt I am right now and I don't know how to handle hurting this much so it is making things bad for everyone around me.  My sister got mad at me today for being in such a bad mood all of the time and how I'm always separating myself from the family and not spending any time with them - I'm home and I need to really be home mentally.  I have to push everything out and be here with my sisters and my parents and my extended family to celebrate Christmas and try my best to be happy (or at least fake it so its believable).

I'm getting so tired, I wish there was just a magical way to fix all of this.

Monday, December 22, 2014

Frustrated to be Alive

I'm in probably the worst spot I've ever been right now and it isn't good (obviously).  I really wish that someone, anyone, read this blog so that there was a person out there in the world who would know what is going on.  I don't know how much writing all of this down is helping, or if it is even helping at all, but I keep blogging because I think a small part of me hopes that someone I know finds this blog and reads what is going through my head right now and knows how bad things have gotten. It isn't like I can talk about the head space that I'm in right now because the last time that I reached out to someone it backfired and they didn't really give a crap even though they said that they do.  The hardest part is that they said they care and they showed it a month or so ago, but in the last few weeks it is like everything has changed.  I honestly feel like they don't really care because they haven't been showing it to me and I feel like our relationship is strained after everything.  I'm at the point where I don't know if I should talk to them about it or just let it go because I don't know if it is even worth trying to fix, but at the same time I really prized our relationship and I really want it to go back to what it once was.  They are sidestepping everything I do to act like things are the same though and a part of me wonders if they are hurt or something because I know I said some hurtful things on twitter even though it was vague and not really directed at them, just kind of an in general sort of thing.  I really wish that we'd had the conversation about how I felt with everything in person and not on Facebook because it just made everything confusing because I couldn't really express how I felt that well and I know they misunderstood.  I also still feel a little hurt that I asked both of them to talk in person and they said they didn't have time, but then were going out to basketball and futsol games and I felt so ignored.  They couldn't even make time for me.  I know I get attached to people too easily, but I really thought that they might be true friends.  Now I'm starting to wonder if maybe I should just pull away from everyone and be alone without anyone.  Life might be a bit easier that way.  I never have any luck with actual people anyway.
This whole situation has made my depression so bad and I have been having a really hard time sleeping and eating, which isn't good.  I mean, I already don't really eat because I feel fat most of the time, but now I just can't even when I actually want to.  The sleeping and increased depression are what concern me the most.  My moods the last few weeks have been all over the place at these complete extremes of happiness and then anger or sadness or emptiness and I don't know what to do. Today I had a great day visiting with my little cousin and then when I drove the three hours back home I arrived at my house and suddenly was really frustrated and angry.  After thinking about it a little bit and trying to figure out why I realized it was because I'm getting to the point where I feel like things are so bad and hopeless that I'm angry that I'm still alive.  Every breath I take hurts and when I have moments of happiness followed by this numb feeling I hate myself for still being here and taking up space on this earth.  When I was driving home I realized how suicidal I really am when it began to snow and I was on the highway (which is very windy where I live) and I sped up faster and faster, reaching 100 miles an hour, flying around the turns because I wanted the car to slip and go off the road into the rocks or a ditch and I would die.  At one point I almost turned the wheel and purposefully went off the road, but there was a car just ahead and at my speed I would have hit them on my way off the road and I wasn't going to bring anyone else into it.  It would be just like my life to get someone else seriously injured and still be alive and completely fine.  I think a large part of me was so angry when I got home because I couldn't just do it - even after I had distance from the other car and was on a stretch where there weren't any other cars, I couldn't drive myself off the road and kill myself.  I'm angry because I want to die so badly, but I keep living and I always chicken out (even that one time junior year when I was so close, I got my dad and he saved my life).  Why can't I just end it already?  I don't want to be here, nobody else wants me to be here, nobody cares about me and nobody ever will.  I'm worth nothing to this world.  I am meaningless.  I am a waste of space.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Depression, Anxiety, and Quidditch

I just noticed that I've been actually keeping up with this blog more than I ever have during this last semester.  I'm pretty sure its because everything in my life is coming to a climax at the same time and I have literally no living person that I can discuss everything with.  It's also been really calming to get my thoughts down, even though the idea of someone I actually know finding this blog terrifies me a little bit inside.  I have mixed feelings about it to be honest - on one hand I wouldn't want them to know how messed up I really am, but on the other hand then they would know that I'm not okay and I've been overthinking literally everything and while I am really happy with my Quidditch team I am also extremely stressed out and my anxiety and depression have been super bad.  To be honest though, if someone did find this blog and then confront me about it I would definitely deny it and depending on the person they would probably believe me.  If it is anyone at school though they would know it was me, even though I don't use my real name on here because of the Quidditch situation that I've talked about.  Ugh, life with a personal blog is so stressful.  I have hinted that I have a blog though and I mentioned once how I would die if anyone on my team found it to a fellow team member (whom I also happen to be a little in love with).  I've also tweeted about it once or twice, but I don't think anyone has noticed.  A part of me really wants this to be found because then all of my explaining will have been done for me and I won't have to explain anything or talk about anything, but at the same time I do have this inherent fear of people finding out that I'm depressed and have high anxiety and may possibly be bipolar like some of my family members.  Which makes me realize that I haven't really mentioned anything about what is going on in my family right now because I've been so focused on this Quidditch stuff (which still hasn't been fully resolved and it keeps me up at night because I'm pretty sure one of my captains is still hurt by some of the things that I said and I'm also pretty sure he misinterpreted my message in the first place and what I was trying to say because when I'm upset I have a hard time communicating).  It really sucks that on top of everything that happened about three weeks ago (I can't believe its been that long already), there is a lot going on with my family right now which makes all of this even harder to deal with.  I'm not really going to talk about it much right now, but I've got a lot of stuff with my grandfather having Parkinson's Disease which is getting worse and my uncle who has cancer and we find out in April if its gone and if it isn't he won't have much longer to live and then my dad's sister who is a drug addict and causing a bunch of family drama and my poor cousin who lives with her and has to have an unfit mother taking care of her and other stuff that I don't really talk about with my older cousin - I'm an emotional wreck.  Dealing with everything I've been dealing with is hard enough for a normal person, add the depression and anxiety and I'm honestly surprised I haven't killed myself yet.

Why must I go through all of these trials? Why can't someone with a normal, functioning brain go through them instead?  What purpose is there for me to go through this if I already have issues with my brain not working right and overthinking and being unable to sleep or eat for long periods of time?

Why me?

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

[Some] Things That Terrify Me

So I was doing some thinking (which I find myself doing a lot lately) and I figured that maybe it would help my increasing anxiety if I listed the things that terrify me.  As my anxiety has been getting worse I've been starting to try and figure out what triggers it, what things cause my heartbeat to pick up and spark a panic attack?  And so, with this question in mind, I decided that it would probably be helpful to think about all of the things that terrify me and send me into a panic (at least that I've noticed so far).  The following is a list I've come up with, its a working list and completely in progress, but its something and its not in any particular order.
  1. Food - I don't know when it started, but I'm afraid of food. The idea of eating sends me into a panic and when I do eat I spend the rest of my night trying not to make myself puke because I feel so awful inside. 
  2. People finding out that I'm in counseling right now - this one makes no sense at all to me to be completely honest, but it is something that keeps me up at night. I have a few friends who know because they pushed me to do it in the first place, but the thought of anyone seeing me in the counseling office at my university sends my heartbeat through the roof.  Especially after I went in to schedule an appointment during finals week last week and I saw a friend of mine sitting right in my line of sight.  I know he saw me and my immediate reaction was to tense up and cut off the receptionist in the middle of her sentence as I got out of there as fast as I could.  I don't know if I was so terrified because he is a friend as well as my Quidditch captain, but I was literally so scared right then and started having a panic attack.  The idea of seeing him there again or anyone else I know that doesn't know the situation right now literally sends me into a panic and that isn't good at all.
  3. Death - my own, of a friend or family member, someone I care about.
  4. Not being forgiven - I do and say stupid things a lot and I'm actually in a situation right now because of how I handle a situation and I don't know if I'll ever be forgiven or if our relationship will ever be the same and that terrifies me.
  5. Life after I finish school
  6. Law school - I'm afraid of the pressure and a part of me doesn't know if I can handle it or if I even want to go to law school anymore, which is something I haven't admitted to anyone. 
  7. Being confronted about my scars - I keep saying to myself that I'm ready, but the time it happened this last semester I froze up and couldn't say anything about it and just let the poor guy guess and figure it out on his own.  I felt so bad after because the poor guy probably thought that I was mad at him, I wasn't at all and he was such a sweat heart about it, no judgement at all.
  8. Judgement - I always feel like everyone is judging me and that they hate me and don't care and wish I didn't exist, it feels like people are talking about me behind my back and when they laugh I always automatically think they are laughing at me, which frightens me because I just want to be loved an accepted.
  9. My team finding out about the continuing self-harm (or really anyone)
  10. Bisexuality - sometimes I wonder if I might really be bisexual and that terrifies me, I just want to be straight because I can't deal with any more secrets right now, its really hard to explain because I have nothing against the LGBT community. 
  11. My anger - there are some days when it gets out of control and it feels like I can't do anything to stop it and it terrifies me because I've done horrible things when this has happened in the past.
  12. Bipolar disorder - I think I might be bipolar and I just, I can't be.  I really really can't be, I can't handle it.
  13. Family (of my own) - I want to get married and have kids, but because of my anger and depression and anxiety I just feel like I'll never be able to because I'll hurt them.  I would not be able to live with myself if I hurt my kids or my husband and so I keep saying that I don't want to get married or have kids when I really do, I just can't ever have that because of my issues. 
  14. Getting a grade below an A in a class - in high school this didn't phase me at all, but now I find myself going into a panic when I discover I've gotten an A- in a class and I'm trying to talk myself out of these freak outs, but I know that I would have a full blown, unstoppable panic attack if I got a B+ 

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

it all started in 3rd grade

The other day I was scrolling through tumblr and saw a picture of one of those butt scooter things that used to be so popular in elementary/middle school gym classes and I had a moment of realization: I've been purposefully hurting myself for longer than I originally thought.
You see, I have always had this notion that I started hurting myself in the spring when I was 12 years old because that was the first time that I cut myself and I have been cutting and burning ever since.  The other day I realized that I can only say the cutting and burning started when I was 12, but the purposeful hurting of myself in other ways had been going on for a lot longer than that.  And the sad thing is, if I really look back and start to think about when I started, truly started, self harming: I was in the third grade.  I was 8 years old.  I was a child.  And that hurts my heart to realize that little me was hurting so badly inside that she turned to hurting herself, it also means that this struggle has been going on for a lot longer than 7 years, its been going on for 11.
But how did I come to this conclusion based solely on a picture of a butt scooter that I used maybe twice in gym classes from the 3rd grade on?

Because of the comment on the picture.  The comment was joking about the "broken fingers" that you would get from riding these things because they were actually pretty hazardous and it reminded me of something.  You see, when I was remembering using these scooters the first memory that came to mind was how I would always purposefully roll over my fingers, I liked how much it hurt.  I would roll over my fingers, I would let others roll over my fingers, I purposefully caught my fingers so that they would get hurt by these butt scooters.  And as those memories came back I started to remember playing recklessly in the playground and not caring if I fell or got hurt, how I would dare boys to hit me and give myself Indian Burns and how one time I got a girl to kick me in the ankle hard enough and enough times that I limped for a day.  Starting in the 3rd grade I began to stop caring about getting hurt, I literally asked for it and if I didn't get it I would do things where I would get hurt on purpose.  These actions are technically self harm, but not in the conventional way and not something that I ever thought of as self harm until I really looked back and evaluated things.  If anything these actions were indications that I only had a matter of time until I turned to cutting myself, which I ended up doing in the 7th grade.  And then Junior year I almost killed myself cutting and haven't cut since, but couldn't handle the pain so I began to burn myself.  All of this can be traced back to these reckless actions, to these years of literally asking for pain and looking for pain, to the year I moved schools and started to feel like I was completely alone.

Monday, December 15, 2014

how many times do I need to say sorry for you to forgive me?

your words make it seem like we are ok,
but your actions tell me a different story
and i don't know what it is i need to do for you
to forgive me,
i can only say "i'm sorry" so many times
before my brain takes over and i give up.
the jokes have faded and conversations seem
filled to the brim with anger and hurt
because i fucked up again and this time
the one person who i felt might care
was the one to get hurt.

and now it hurts me to no end.

i'm doing all i can to mend this friendship
we once had,
but sometimes things become too broken
for fixing and i fear that is what i've done
because i lashed out when i should have held it
inside.
there are some days when my brain refuses to work
and when the darkness becomes so consuming
that i can't help but curl up into a ball,
i look for that little light that i thought
you might be.

i fucked up.
again

of course i would lash out at the one i care deeply for
because isn't that the way things always go?
and i don't know how to fix this and make it better,
i don't know how to apologize and start over,
i don't know how many times i have to say sorry
for us to be what we were before

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Music

I listen to music that is real,
pounding itself into my soul with each word
that flows through my veins and makes me
feel alive.
Words are so full of meaning sometimes -
I can't keep myself held down
unless I have something to tie me
and these songs are the ones that chain the
perfect meanings together in letters
that are just heavy enough to keep me from
flying off into darkness.

These are the songs that kept me back
from falling out of high trees
where branches grew in just the right way
to hold me in place with a notebook
filled with words twined together,
messy attempts at making songs to hold down
the other lost souls in this world.

Friday, December 5, 2014

Done Messed Up (Again)

So I have these moments when I do things completely irrationally and then end up getting myself into awkward (and usually really painful) situations, this last week sure has been an example of that. I let myself do things without thinking and now someone that I really respected might have just had enough of me. I didn't handle things right and a part of me wants to just apologize and say that I know I was wrong, that I know I handled the situation in the worst way possible and I shouldn't have dragged in the people that I did. Sometimes I wonder about my actions and I wish I could just not make stupid choices that later bite me in the butt -- HARD. There is no way that I can excuse my actions and, unfortunately, I have an idea as to why things happen like this all of the time which would explain a lot, but I wouldn't want to ever use as an excuse. So I just won't ever talk about it. But I do feel like I should shoot a message to the two people who I got involved who didn't need to be and apologize, we kind of talked a bit via Facebook and decided to leave this behind us and move on, but I just have this overwhelming need to tell them that I truly am sorry and I acted irrationally and brought them into a situation that they didn't need to be brought into. I don't want to be annoying about it or anything like that, I just need (for my own mental sake) to tell them that I'm sorry because I don't want them to think I'm going to cause drama or honestly expected them to get involved. I was being pushed to do and say things that I didn't feel right doing and saying by two people who had a problem with these guys to begin with, next time I really need to get advice from a separate party who isn't emotionally involved. I feel literally so bad I don't even know how to express it, I can't stop thinking about how badly I really feel about this whole situation. I don't want to bring it back up or talk about it anymore at the same time that I just feel this overwhelming need to say sorry. I was downright awful and mean on twitter and I have a feeling that one of them knew I was talking about him. I've since deleted the tweets, but I just need to know when I leave that this is truly behind us and the three(ish) weeks of winter break won't be spent stewing and letting things build up. I break things and then have an overwhelming urge to fix them because I always feel so pressured to keep things together, I feel like I ruin so many things. 

God, I feel so bad. I just want to be able to say sorry over and over and over again. 

Thursday, December 4, 2014

Resolution

Resolution is always so calming. After a bit of a cooling off period and a little bit of honesty, I think things are going to be ok. I definitely feel bad for the situation that I put some people in and I do feel like my actions weren't rational, but I was hurt. I'm not saying that to excuse myself for what I did and my anger, but it was a definite factor. Now that I know that things are going to be ok I feel a bit more relaxed (at least as much as I can be when finals are in literally 3 days). This team is my family and every family has some issues, I guess it was just my time to cause drama. Hopefully I won't cause any more ever again because I hate being the source of drama and team issues. I hate being angry at the world and the people I care about. Its going to take some time to heal, but I will do my best. I'm leaving this behind me and moving on because I don't need drama caused be me on top of everything else. I know that nobody really reads this blog, but in the off chance that someone does and they know me and maybe they are part of my team:

I am so sorry.

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

The "Stupidity" of Villains

You know, I was pondering things a little while ago about heroes and villains and something struck me; the reason the villain ends up being defeated because they talk about their "evil" plan is not because they are dumb or stupid, its because they just want recognition.  I mean, look at the villains, most people can relate to them more than they can relate to the hero.  The hero saves the day, the hero is who people want to be, but the villain is who people can see themselves in.  Villains don't start that way, they are not born evil, they are born as innocents who are then mistreated by the world.  It is just like us as average humans, we are born and we live in a life where we are constantly being misunderstood and disregarded for our efforts and used by those around us.  The natural desire of human kind is to be loved and cared for and noticed, but that doesn't happen.  Villains are representatives of this notion and this flaw in humanity, they become "evil" because they have this overwhelming desire to be noticed by someone and to do something that gets noticed, that they can take the credit for.  Really, they are just trying to be loved and understood and recognized - just like we are every single day.  So when a villain stops in that moment when he has the hero cornered and the end is surely in sight, he isn't being stupid or dumb in describing his "evil" plan - he is only trying to get recognition and praise, he wants to take credit for this thing that he has done.  In this situation the hero is the parent or the teacher or the coach or the captain or the friend who takes that moment to listen to what we've done and then turns around and steals it all away.  The villain isn't defeated because he is stupid, he is defeated because of his overwhelming need to be able to tell someone what he has done and be proud of it, something that we desire to do everyday.  This common scene is a direct representation of the, arguably, biggest flaw in humanity: the desire for recognition that will never come except for in fleeting circumstances where it is then ignored.

So, I don't think villains are all that bad or unintelligent - they are just like us, a fact that I think many people ignore.  Think about it, who do you have more in common with? The hero or the villain?  My bet would be the villain.

Monday, December 1, 2014

To the person who will never ever read this, but I wish would

There are certain people in my life right now that I really wish knew about and read this blog because I'm so fucking pathetic that I can't tell them that there is something wrong. It's probably because I'm so used to not being cared about and I know that most people don't give a shit about me or my problems - I'm too fucked up for that, I'm not worth it. Yet, there are truths that need to be put out there: like the fact that I can't do any of this anymore. Things have gotten to the point where my brain is always thinking about ways in which to end this life, I don't have the will anymore. If I didn't have two little sisters that I swore I would never leave behind, I honestly wouldn't be here anymore. I'm so done with life. I just can't. And I might quit my quidditch team because I honestly feel so used and mistreated and under appreciated by them. I work my butt of for this team, I've made sacrifices and I've done things for this team that I've never done for a team before in my life.  Yet, with all of this effort I put in I am still seen only as the loud and obnoxious girl that nobody gives a shit about.  I've always known this, because that is why people hated me in high school and I know I haven't changed.  Being loud is the only way I ever feel heard honestly and I know that I can be annoying and a little crazy, but I try to tone it down. Tonight, however, it was pointed out to me by a member of my team and ever since its just been a downward spiral.  Between this and stuff at home I just can't keep fighting much longer.  The thoughts are back and they are bad, I don't want to eat or sleep and I just can't smile or laugh except for in small bursts.  I really wish that the one person who I feel like might understand or maybe be able to find it in his heart to care even a little bit about me would read this blog and know that I lied to him and I'm not okay.  I'm afraid of admitting to people that I'm fighting this battle, mostly because I know that they probably won't give a shit.  In my entire life I have never truly been cared about as a person by more than 3 people and sometimes I think those 3 people are lying.  How could anyone care about fucked up me? I'm worthless, meaningless, I am the fly on the wall. When people see me their only thought is how much they wish I would just go away and not come back, I am annoying and invisible.

I'm crying and tired and so done with everything, I just want to be heard and feel at least like I'm a small amount of worthwhile in this world.